Month: December 2014

How to take a Girl out on a Perfect Date

If you ask a woman what the perfect date is, the answer will probably be horribly clichéd. Something about a romantic candle-lit dinner, great conversation and a hand-in-hand walk along the beach in the moonlight. In other words, she’s looking for a build up of the romance so that when (or if!) you return home later, you’ll both be in an insanely intimate mood.

If you ask a guy what the perfect date is, especially when he’s chatting with his friends, it’s probably something to do with the horizontal naked dancing.

Men and women are often in the same place at the same time, sharing the same experience, but see it in totally different ways. It means different things from different points of view. I’m not saying all men and all women are like that, but there’s enough out there that I feel I can generalise enough at this point.

So then, that leads to the question of whether or not the perfect date actually exists? Perhaps it only exists in our minds as we map out how we would like it to go. But hey, reality always screws even with the best laid plans. Either way, it doesn’t mean we can’t at least try to have the perfect date. Whether it’s a first date, or one of many – every date can reach that same level of high standards of being incredible. Not every date has to be better than the last, but you just have to keep sight of love and not let things wane after time. The so called ‘honeymoon period’.

It’s a good thing there are a lot of dating guides out there really. If you’re married for 40 years and date once per week, that’s over 2,000 dates you’ll go on together – I can see how it’s hard to stay original. I can safely say that of the many dates I’ve been on myself, most guys aim for the same thing and although it’s great, it does get very same-y. So! Don’t just assume that a perfect date has to be a normal date. In fact, the more memorable the better! You have to change things, you have to keep it original. Going to the same place every week just gets BORING. It’s not dating, it’s just repeating.

I always love it when I talk to guys who’ve read advice and treated it just as that. Advice. Don’t just take verbatim what’s printed in these guides. Add your own twists, add your own personalities. Take the ideas put forth and make them you’re own. How you do that, well, I’ll leave you to turn a great date into a perfect date.

 

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How to be a Romantic Man and why it’s a Good Thing!

Being labelled as a romantic man is often considered undesirable by the most manliest of men. But why? Just because you’re great at pampering your woman doesn’t mean that you’re any less of a man. Spend the day playing football or fixing up your car for all I care; as long as at the end of the day you have time for the love, care and attention of your significant other than what’s the problem in that? And let’s face it lads, if you treat your girl right and perhaps cook her an impromptu romantic dinner then the benefits of what’s for dessert far outweigh any negative connotations a “romantic man” might get from his mates.

My last boyfriend couldn’t see this, and it’s where our problems started.

Being a romantic man isn’t hard, it’s the little things that count. A glance, a holding of the hand, eye contact. Yeah, gifts and flowers are great to get, but it’s not about that. It’s the things money doesn’t buy (sorry for the cliché there!). It’s your style and imagination that create the most romantic of moments with that woman you love.

If you know her (and you should) then you know what she likes and dislikes. You know the little things that make her day. Thing of what she likes and build a romantic event around it. If she likes walks on the beach, why not take her for a picnic on the shore (granted, it is winter now – perhaps I should’ve started writing this in May!). Of course, you’ve gotta make sure it’s about her. Don’t take her shopping to the local DIY store just because ‘she likes shopping’. It’s all about making it her time.

So, take shopping for an example. You go clothes shopping with her because it makes her feel amazing. It makes her feel beautiful, and she enjoys it. It makes her happy and that should make you happy. She’ll ask your opinion, model for you, ask her if she looks sexy. It’s a romantic thing to see how your woman looks and carries herself as she moves in something that makes her feel amazing. And let’s face it guys, who hasn’t tried to coax their other half into a lingerie shop and been happily surprised when she lets you pick something out for her to wear that night at home 😉

Being romantic is a win-win, and believe me if you make her feel loved and cared for then she will return the feeling in oodles. It really makes a relationship click, and keeps things fresh.

So men, don’t be afraid, show your romantic side, and your relationships will grow better, for sure! Women? Well you already know your man likes to be romanced so I don’t think I need to say any more!

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The Top 8 Traps when Buying Gifts for your Girl

So how do you buy a gift to impress your new girl? Or in fact your current girl.

These tips will help you avoid making common gift buying mistakes. Men – take note!

  1. Don’t Ask Her What She Wants
    Use your imagination. You should know her, and you can prove that you do by buying her something that you know she’ll love – without her giving you hints. Surprises are your friend here.
  2. If She Tells You She Doesn’t Want Anything, Don’t Listen
    Women never mean this when they say it. Don’t pay attention or you’ll get caught out.
  3. Get The Right Size
    So you’ve bought this romantic and lovely present and she goes to try it on. Oops, it doesn’t fit. Not only will she now have to traipse to the shop to take it back or swap it, she’ll probably also work out how much it cost. You’re better off buying something too small though than too big.
  4. Don’t Buy Her a Toaster
    I’m sure she’s been going on about the latest kitchen appliance she’d love to have for months. But it’s not a romantic present. White good are off the cards.
  5. Don’t Recycle Presents
    Never give her something you’ve given her in the past, it’s just lazy. Think of something new.
  6. Don’t Give Her Something For You
    I’m sure she really wanted that. Or was it that you wanted it and it’s an excuse to get one for “the two of you”. She’ll see straight through this.
  7. Present With Style
    The delivery is just as important as what’s inside. Nice wrapping, a nice bag or box. It all shows that you care and are willing to go the extra mile for her. Something shoved in her face in a Tesco bag just won’t work in the same way.
  8. It’s Not About The Money
    As much as you think it might be, it’s not. Sometimes a piece of card with a heart drawn on it is all she needs to make her day. Any woman that only values presents based on their value isn’t worth it.

So, guys, try and make sure the next time you buy your girl a gift you don’t fall into any of these common pitfalls!

And please don’t flame me for being sexist – I’ve been asked to post something about gift buying for ages now! 🙂

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Ten Top Tips to Improve your Flirting and Achieve More With Women

How do you flirt? It’s an age old question. You don’t have to look like Clooney, Pitt, or whoever it is you guys fancy though to make members of the opposite sex go weak at the knees however. Yes, a great smile and charming looks helps, but it isn’t the be-all and end-all.

Want girls and guys to follow you around like paparazzi? Follow our flirting tips below:

  1. Eye Contact, create eye contact with the person you want to get flirty with for a minimum of 5 seconds. Any less and they won’t notice, more seems creepy. Smile (a little) and then look away slowly. Do this a few times in the first 15-20 minutes. Your victim needs to know that you’re interested and eye contact is a universal signal to show this. Don’t stare so hard you burn a hole in their face though – keep it casual!
  2. Smile,  this is the best flirting weapon in your arsenal. It makes you look approachable and open. Nothing over the top, just an honest and attractive smile. If you’ve been locking eyes and sharing smiles then you’re certainly ready for phase 2 – the introduction!
  3. Second Glances, this one works well for women. As you walk past your target, make sure you (similar to step #1) make eye contact, look away, and then make eye contact again. Smile as you walk past. This will literally turn heads.
  4. The Lips – lick them. Not like a porn star, but perhaps as if you were removing a spec of sugar. Licking of the lips is a sure fire way people are thinking about seductive things such as kissing.
  5. Cross Your Legs, again for the women. Crossed legs are massive subliminal turn ons for men.
  6. Self Pruning (The Copycat!) – watch your target and copy their body language. Perhaps it’s running your fingers through your hair or touching a part of your face. A bit of self pruning for women here never goes amiss. Fix your makeup, check your eyeliner. Whatever – the fact you’re making it obvious you want to look your best shows off you’re interested.
  7. Posture – men! Stand up tall and straight. No slouching! Remember you need to be the prominent alpha male in the room. So feel like it and she will see it. Pull your shoulders back, remain calm and walk with pride.
  8. Talk With Your Feet, this is an age-old body language trick. Women, point your toes in as it shows the fact you are available, and men, point your toes slightly out to promote dominance.
  9. Pay Attention – focus on what the other person is saying. Listen to what they’re saying and respond appropriately. If you sound genuinely interested in what they have to say you won’t go far wrong! Keep things simple and light and let them do most of the talking if that helps.
  10. Leave Them Wanting More, in bars and clubs this works well. Introduce yourself and make first contact. Leave the conversation, however, just before you normally would. Your new interest will be left wanting more. They’ll want to finish that conversation. And how will they satisfy that need? Well, by finding you again later of course!

Follow these 10 top tips and you’ll be on the road to successful flirting in no time 🙂

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