If you ask a woman what the perfect date is, the answer will probably be horribly clichéd. Something about a romantic candle-lit dinner, great conversation and a hand-in-hand walk along the beach in the moonlight. In other words, she’s looking for a build up of the romance so that when (or if!) you return home later, you’ll both be in an insanely intimate mood.
If you ask a guy what the perfect date is, especially when he’s chatting with his friends, it’s probably something to do with the horizontal naked dancing.
Men and women are often in the same place at the same time, sharing the same experience, but see it in totally different ways. It means different things from different points of view. I’m not saying all men and all women are like that, but there’s enough out there that I feel I can generalise enough at this point.
So then, that leads to the question of whether or not the perfect date actually exists? Perhaps it only exists in our minds as we map out how we would like it to go. But hey, reality always screws even with the best laid plans. Either way, it doesn’t mean we can’t at least try to have the perfect date. Whether it’s a first date, or one of many – every date can reach that same level of high standards of being incredible. Not every date has to be better than the last, but you just have to keep sight of love and not let things wane after time. The so called ‘honeymoon period’.
It’s a good thing there are a lot of dating guides out there really. If you’re married for 40 years and date once per week, that’s over 2,000 dates you’ll go on together – I can see how it’s hard to stay original. I can safely say that of the many dates I’ve been on myself, most guys aim for the same thing and although it’s great, it does get very same-y. So! Don’t just assume that a perfect date has to be a normal date. In fact, the more memorable the better! You have to change things, you have to keep it original. Going to the same place every week just gets BORING. It’s not dating, it’s just repeating.
I always love it when I talk to guys who’ve read advice and treated it just as that. Advice. Don’t just take verbatim what’s printed in these guides. Add your own twists, add your own personalities. Take the ideas put forth and make them you’re own. How you do that, well, I’ll leave you to turn a great date into a perfect date.