Sexual tension is absolutely paramount in any interaction with a woman. The energy and charge of interacting with another person is powerful. There are many different conceptualizations of sexual tension floating around in the seduction community.
Some examples are cocky bantering and flirting, explicit sexual interest paired with false barriers, using the word ‘sexy’ to convey a sexual intent, and of course the old speedy seduction route (complex language patterns intended to implant sexual thoughts into a woman’s mind).
Some techniques work better than others, and can definitely improve your success. I prefer the very pure kind of sexual tension because it is grounded in real, hard sexual desire, and a very natural way of magnifying the tension felt by the girl.
So, sexual tension is the presence of a controlled state of arousal, but with the absence of overt sexual interest.
If you’re trying to increase tension with your partner, then pick the right time, then focus your sexual desire on your woman, but not by making any overt sexual advances. Make sure you maintain intrigue, a sense of ambiguity, which keeps her focused on you, and directs her mind toward sexual thoughts. Transfer your passion to her, making her mire aroused. It is then only a matter of keeping her sexually aroused using compliance techniques.
Controlled State of Arousal
There are two reasons why a sexually aroused state is so important for this to work. First, women love sex. It feels great (usually!), and a sexual man is invaluable to a woman because he can give her pleasure in ways she can’t. It’s like ticking, far better when someone else is involved! Women are attracted to men who are attracted to women.
The second reason is more subtle, but there are examples in every day life. It’s a phenomenon called ‘state-transfer’ – have you ever been in a bad mood, and a friend came by in a really great, excited mood? Your mood probably changed, and you found yourself cheering up in spite of yourself. How about the way you feel around someone when they’re nervous? You feel nervous as well, correct?
Think back to a time you were with a woman, say your girlfriend, and she was obviously very sexually aroused, but you weren’t doing anything sexual to her. You probably got yourself excited because she was excited. This is how humans hypnotize each other in every day life – we transfer our states to each other. It’s incredibly powerful in terms of human interaction.
Can you see where I’m going with this?
State transfer occurs on a metaphysical, psychic energy level. But more so, a state is transferred with non-verbal communication. When you are turned on, your voice reflects your state, as do facial expressions, eye contact, manner of touching, body language, and a million other little things – too numerous to try to micromanage or control yourself.
It’s not as simple as just being turned on, although that’s of course part of it. Control is vital – if you are nervous or uncomfortable yourself, you won’t be able to get sexually aroused. The best way to stay calm and comfortable in social situations is simply experience. Socialise more, go out, get experience talking to women. There are so many other guides online that can help you with this.
Some people find meditation, diet, avoidance of harmful indulgences, television and regular exercise all help.
For the ‘getting turned on’ part, you’ll be raising your testosterone levels to incredible effect. You already know how to get aroused, I’m not going to try and help you out here. But just remember, during your interactions with women, simply focus on what she’d look like naked, or imagine having sex with her, or whatever fun little thoughts you want to entertain in your head.
The tension side is really an extension of intrigue, which can be described in two ways. It can be seen as a lack of over-validating a woman, or getting her attention fixated on you by being ambiguous and holding back information. Creating mystery. You probably learnt this in dating 101. These are flip sides of the same coin however, and when applied to sexual tension, we enter a sexual state, but don’t verbalise our desires.
Your girl probably has you figured out, and knows you want her, which gives her the option of forgetting about you and focusing elsewhere. You’re old news. You don’t want this. You’ve got to ensure you verbalise sexual interest because it puts her in a position where she wants to agree with it. She will be consciously admitting that this is leading to sex.
It’s a Pandora’s box scenario: imagine sitting in a room with a closed treasure chest in front of you. Then you open it and find gold. When was the chest more interesting? True, the gold is great, but there’s no longer a mystery in the air. You can even forget about the gold for a bit and do something else, because you know (or hope) it’ll still be there when you get back. But, in those moments before you know what’s in there, that chest preoccupies your mind and keeps your attention.
Once you have mastered this concept, you’re well on your way.
If you liked this article, check out some of my others on this topic: Why Good Sex Doesn’t Last For Hours, Do You Actually Attract The Opposite Sex? and How To Get a Girl Into Bed…