Monday’s Top Sex Tip #1 – Light BDSM Never Hurts

Hi All! Tonight I’m doing something a little different. Each day I’ll be posting a new sex tip, so make sure to bookmark the page and check back for a new idea or suggestion every night this week! If you like or have your own suggestions then please comment!

Tip #1: Light BDSM never hurts

Things getting a little boring in the bedroom? Adding a little kink to proceedings can insert some intensity back into your lovemaking. Bondage and BDSM isn’t for everyone, and can also be a very expensive hobby to get into. Here are a few ideas you can try out for free and see how it goes. As always, remember and respect each other’s limits – sex is about fun after all.

Blindfolds – Wrap a scarf, pillowcase or some underwear around your lover’s eyes so they can’t see. Perhaps even numbing their hearing too. Sensory deprivation can enhance other senses, so you’ll be more responsive to touch. Especially if he or she doesn’t know what you’re going to do next, the anticipation can be killer!

Tie Him/Her Town – Gently tieing your partner down can be incredibly kinky but also really simple. You can try pinning him/her with your arms but they may be stronger than you. Plus using some light restraints frees your hands up to explore elsewhere! Just hope they’re not ticklish or they’ll be writhing around all over the place!

Ice – Ice cubes are cold. And by playing with them in the right way (perhaps even mixing in a bit of heat gel) can create incredible sensations all over the body.

 

Remember, check back tomorrow for Tip #2! Amy x

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Dating Tips For The Timid

Some people are timid and shy, and they often have difficulties in starting a conversation with someone they don’t really know. They need time to adjust to strange situations. They’re probably the kind of person who goes out for a date to the cinema because they can get used to the presence of a date without being obliged to talk. When you finish, you can talk about the film you just saw, so it’s easy conversation.

Another thing shy daters tend to do is ask about the other person a lot. By letting them talk it’ll serve to show you’re interested in learning about him or her – plus it reduces the pressure on you of talking until you’re more comfortable. By making them do most of the talking you are feeling less stressed and by the time you get your turn you know enough about them to pick out common ground.

Take into account that most people love talking about themselves. People want to find a good listener. So actually, you may be doing yourself a favour by letting the other person talk if you are able to listen attentively and interact where appropriate. Your date will feel more at ease with you if you can listen and take on-board everything they say.

But when push comes to shove, don’t let your shyness take over. If you let it get to you, it will prevent you from ever progressing with relationships and securing that oh-so-important 2nd date.

 

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Girls, How to Secure a Second Date

Girls – you’ve just been on a wonderful date with a new man. He’s your dream guy? How do you get that important 2nd date?

Just follow some of these tips and you’ll be on track to win over his heart and drive him to ask you out again…

 

  • Encourage him, say things like “I had a lovely time tonight” before you part aways. A guy is far more confident in asking you out again if you leave him with the knowledge he gave you a good time and a clear indication you’re interested
  • Know when to bite your tongue, don’t confess all up front. Guys are sensitive to a few topics which really turn them off. Avoid mentioning on your first date anything to do with previous relationships, commitment, body hang-ups or personal hygenie
  • Don’t hit the sack, girls – if there is one important thing, never give in on the first date. Guys like a challenge and if they’re serious about you, will be expecting you to make them wait. Give him something to chase
  • Don’t pander to every message, yes it’s lovely to text back and forth, but make sure he sees you have a life of your own. If he really wants to talk to you that much, make him do it in person

Good luck!

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Your Photo is your Most Important Tool

With the abundance of on-line dating sites, filled with 1000’s of eligible members in every area, it’s hard to stand out from the crowd.

Daters always ask me what my top tip is for them, about how they can improve their profile, how they can get more responses…

It’s Your Photo

Unfortunately, we live in a very material and somewhat judgemental world. You absolutely must have a great photo on your profile. Now I’m not saying that you have to look like a supermodel, but a profile with a clean and smart, well taken photograph will stand out. There are various reasons why people don’t want to post good photos on dating profiles; usually this is due to embarrassment if they’re recognised, or perhaps they feel self concious about how they look. But listen, by not having a photo or by having an “arty” photo where your face is not clearly visible you look like someone who has something to hide. Your photo doesn’t have to look like a glossy magazine shoot, but it gives people the general idea if you are what they are looking for, that you aren’t hiding something (e.g. you’re married!), and that you’re a real person.

People who reject you based on your profile picture aren’t worth getting to know anyway, so don’t worry about that side of things. And worried you may be recognised by friends or family? Well firstly, on-line dating is not a taboo any more, and secondly, what are they doing looking on the sites themselves anyway??

Studies show that profiles with pictures get far more response than those which don’t. A good photo is an attention grabber, and it could be the thing that spurs them on to get in touch.

So when you message me asking what I think about your profile and what would I suggest, don’t bother if you don’t have a good photo up already – that will be your Achilles heel at this point.

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Increase Your Confidence Through Who You Are

Guys. Close your eyes. Imagine the guy you want to be. Imagine every aspect of his character, his behaviour, his looks…
If you can’t do this, then you’ll never become him. But if you can visualise every aspect of the guy you want to be then you can.

Ponder things such as how does he move, what does he sound like, how does he dress. I want you to imagine every part of how he appears, speaks, behaves and thinks. If you can see him, you can be him. Now imagine this person, the fictional you in your mind, actually has your face. Brand your subconcious with this image. Get used to being this person in your mind.

Just as you wouldn’t be able to be an amazing musician without practicing you will never be the cool and confident guy without practicing. Become comfortable with the new you and embrace the concept that you can truly be anyone you want to be.

Just by doing this, a little bit at a time, every day, you will teach yourself to be more confident and this can only lead to further success in the dating world.

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