Some people are timid and shy, and they often have difficulties in starting a conversation with someone they don’t really know. They need time to adjust to strange situations. They’re probably the kind of person who goes out for a date to the cinema because they can get used to the presence of a date without being obliged to talk. When you finish, you can talk about the film you just saw, so it’s easy conversation.
Another thing shy daters tend to do is ask about the other person a lot. By letting them talk it’ll serve to show you’re interested in learning about him or her – plus it reduces the pressure on you of talking until you’re more comfortable. By making them do most of the talking you are feeling less stressed and by the time you get your turn you know enough about them to pick out common ground.
Take into account that most people love talking about themselves. People want to find a good listener. So actually, you may be doing yourself a favour by letting the other person talk if you are able to listen attentively and interact where appropriate. Your date will feel more at ease with you if you can listen and take on-board everything they say.
But when push comes to shove, don’t let your shyness take over. If you let it get to you, it will prevent you from ever progressing with relationships and securing that oh-so-important 2nd date.