Online Dating Profile Tip #5: Third Person
If you’re not good at writing about yourself, then get a friend involved. They probably know you from the outside in a different way to how you think of yourself. If you’re stuck for what to say, then let them loose on your profile. There are even sites out there now dedicated to introducing friends to eachother. You must have at least one friend who says they can’t understand why you’re still single; that’s the kind of person you want to be selling your personality online. Ask friends for advice on what your best features are and incorporate that into your profile.
Top Attraction Myth #5: Telling Her How I Feel Is The Answer
Nope. The more you reveal about yourself and your feelings, the less attractive you will be. Of course, girls like mystery and all that jazz, but it’s not that.
Guys think that if they reveal loving and inner secrets about how they feel their partner will suddenly find this inner love and there’ll be a happily ever after. Unfortunately, when a guy professes his love for a girl, most go into some sort of special panic mode. It’s that concern about attachment and reliance. Girls don’t like to feel too close until they’re entirely comfortable.
What’s important is how she feels. She needs the right amount of interest, curiosity, love (or like), attraction and also has to be in the right place with herself. If you put all your cards on the table, she might click that you’re not both in the same place right now and instantly push you away.
Don’t reveal all, and let her settle first, before muttering those three magic words, and you’ll probably find things work out better in the end…
Top Attraction Myth #4: I’m A Nice Guy
Many guys have come to learn this over the course of their teens and probably twenties. So many men think that being the nice guy will lead them where they want with women. Yes, you need to be decent, but I’m afraid if you think that coming across as the soppy “nice guy” you’ll be in her pants then you are far from mistaken.
Women want strength in a man and not just physically, but emotionally. You need to be able to provide for her in the future and keep her secure. You must be confident in your actions and not a doormat. Many men realise as they get older that a lot of their failed relationships were down to them trying to perpetually be this super nice person and in the end they just were walked over. If that’s you, then sort it out – pronto.
Online Dating Profile Tip #4: Expectations
Listing what you’re looking for from a dating website is a good thing. If you’re looking to be serious, then make sure your profile shows that off. There’s no point in attracting someone not on the same level as you. If you’re wanting NSA fun then put that too, but don’t expect there not to be at least a few people put off by that. Oh well, they weren’t going to be what you wanted anyway.
Don’t waste people’s time – make sure you’re being upfront in what you say.
Top Attraction Myth #3: Money Talks
A lot of men believe that not having money, being the best looking, or being famous means they’re immediately on a back foot when it comes to women. And granted, yes, a man with more money may be able to go out more often and meet more women, but it doesn’t affect the quality of who they’ll meet nor how they act with that person.
If you’re looking for long term relationships, then you have to remember that it really is what’s inside that counts. It’s important to have a level of physical attraction of course, but although first off a woman might be attracted to a jerk, it’s more likely they’re attracted to confidence and excitement. And any man can offer a girl these things.
Fame is attractive to women because it seems powerful, jerks offer women a challenge and wealth offers security. But it’s possible to have all these things just be taking on the right attitude when you’re on a night out. Don’t be over clingly, don’t look weak and if a girl’s just after money then she’s not right for you anyway.