When you meet a woman, she puts you into one of three categories. Often this is pretty instant, and it can be hard to change this once you’ve fallen into it (no matter how hard some guys try to get ‘un-friendzoned’).
I Like Him
If you look like her type, dress like her type or even smell like her type, you’ll probably instantly fall into her “I would have sex with you” category. Great – you’re already in there and keep playing your cards right it’ll go where you want it to go. An average guy will only fall into this category around 10% of the time, so if you don’t at first succeed, then don’t fear, try again!
I Don’t Like Him
Maybe it’s the persona you give off, or she’s just not physically attracted to you. If you fall into this category then I’m afraid guys it’s impossible to ever leave it. She’s just not into you – perhaps she sees you as a friend? Women will throw men into this category for a wide variety of reasons, often superficial and petty, so don’t be put off by it. Just move on.
The majority of the time, you’ll fall into this category. It’s good as you still have a chance, but you have to work for it. If you’ve yet to open your mouth then you’ll either improve or worsen your chances depending on what she thinks of your personality – so be careful what you say! Don’t worry though, it’s easy for you to create the desire and attraction in you that a women is looking for.
A lot of us are timid or why when conversing with the opposite sex. That gets us no where. We are terrified of conversing with any individual of opposite sex. Something happens that stops us. Why do we get terrified? We are not frightened of talking with our own gender. It’s as though there is a switch in the brain that is switched off and says no when it comes to talking to potential dates.
What can possibly be done to solve this? Well, the good news is, it’s all in your head. Our brain lets us know that we are not ready. We may be rejected. We may be laughed at. Our brain cautions us to protect ourselves from this and says no – you are not to approach anybody from the opposite sex. It’s a fight or flight type response. For this situation, we must depend on fight. However with this flee response most people experience, we will never get an attractive partner. We will forever stay single and just insightfully watch different couples going around. So what would it be advisable for us to do?
The first step in such cases is to assess ourself and contrast ourselves and our friends. Is it true that we are as keen as they seem to be? Is it true that we are as keen as they may actually be? It is safe to say that we are as sure as they may be? It is safe to say that we are as adequate as they seem to be? Are we as good as them? You are an attractive individual. On the off chance that your companions are not shy, why are you? Assemble the quality and methodology persons of opposite sex with trust. Don’t stress over rejection. There might be numerous explanations behind that, some can be so petty (us women are like that!). Approach keenly with confidence and you will unquestionably get a great date out of it!
Are you having trouble with attracting and seducing any hot women you meet?
Well if so, then pay close attention to what I’m about to tell you…
If you’re interested in increasing your overall success with women, then you should learn ONE important thing. It is being able to approach women WITHOUT any fear of rejection! I know this sounds simplistic, but many guys have major problems with this one aspect of their dating lives. They’re afraid to approach women because they worry about what could go wrong. Typically a lot of men get nervous thinking about what a woman will say and how she might reject him.
All you have to do is learn how to overcome your fear of rejection. By confidently walking up to a woman with NO fear of rejection, you’ll instantly become an attractive guy who has a seductive personality.
Here’s an example to illustrate this point… One of my good friends is able to attract and seduce many beautiful women because he has almost no fear of rejection. While he knows he’s might be rejected, he’s able to eliminate all negative thought patterns. Instead he simply focuses on his approach and initiating conversations with women. As you can see, guys with no fear of rejection are able to increase their overall success with women. If you learn to cultivate this personality, you’ll find that you’ll become better with women as well. All you have to do is learn how to act confidently on all interactions with women. When you’re talking to women, simply concentrate on the conversation and work at eradicating all negative thoughts. Just relax and enjoy the conversation.
If you’re intimidated by women, you need to work on building your confidence and become comfortable with approaching hot women. If you see an attractive woman, then you should immediately approach her. When you get into the practice of approaching all hot women you see, you’re nervousness and fears will quickly fade away. Once you get into a pattern of approaching women and initiating conversations with women, you’ll experience a dramatic increase in your success. Even if you’re only able to pick up a woman once in awhile, you’ll at least have more experience with your approach techniques. Also, you’ll be closer towards eliminating your fear of rejection. Attracting and seducing women is possible. But if you let your fears and nervousness get in the way, you’ll have little chance of success. All you have to do is practice your approach techniques and become more confident, then you’ll master the art of attraction. You can find out more about this by reading my previous articles on seduction and attraction, so check them out!
The time after the first date can be a very emotional experience. The excitement of what to do next can be racing through someone’s mind. These emotions are magnified even further if the date was a success. This however is a time to slow down and play it cool. The last thing anyone wants to do is scare of a potential Mr or Mrs Right.
There are many excited singles longing to reach for the phone at the first opportunity after having a great time. Getting to know someone doesn’t need to be achieved within a few days, it’s a process that needs to take time. The relationship needs space to breath. A day or two after the first date is a perfect time to collect thoughts, and as they say, absence makes the heart grow fonder. Unless it’s a one night stand you were after, calling again after a couple of days is the right thing to do.
When you do get around to that first phone call remember to stay relaxed and don’t come across as being infatuated. Acting clingy or desperate will just put off the other. Try to get a sense of how the date went for the other person. When the time is right mention how the date went for you, and see what type of response you get. If it’s a positive one you have the option of talking about another date, or playing it cool a little longer. Maybe call them again in another couple of days, but still leave them with the feeling that you are very interested. You don’t want to give them the impression you are not as this could put doubts in their mind or lead them to look elsewhere.
The next call should be about the second date if you haven’t mentioned it in the previous call. Often people these days will be texting or chatting on-line and use this time to set-up the next date. That’s fine, but I do think a call is nice after a successful date. Arrange a quiet place for the date so you can still chat in comfort, and get to know them a bit more.
As the dates progress, adding fun to them can bring two people closer. Trying an activity for the first time like bowling can create some humour. Learn to laugh together, it’s a very romantic emotion. Any activity that has the possibility for a bit of intimate touching is good. Avoid things like the cinema as you can’t talk and can’t interact with the other person. Save that for a 5th or 6th date.
The time after your first date can be an exciting, emotional experience. Remember to relax, play it cool, and don’t come across as being desperate, and everything should run along smoothly.
As I’ve been saying for a while, there are two key things to being successful with on-line dating. They seem pretty obvious; language, and your photo. Right?
Well as with everything there is more to these things than first meets the eye. Being attractive and having a great photo is one thing, but how you sell yourself through your words is another very important task.
So – what are these magic profile tips you may ask? There are several traits which increase your percieved attractiveness with the opposite sex. Use the wording in your profile to get across the following keywords and you will greatly increase your chances of success!
For Men, the key words to use in your profile are: Passionate, Perceptive, Funny, Ambitious, Spontaneous, Thoughtful, Affectionate, Outgoing, Optimistic and Fit.
For Women, the best words for success are: Ambitious, Funny, Outgoing, Hard Working, Sweet, Thoughtful, Loving, Passionate, Attractive and Spontaneous.