With the advent of modern technology, social networks and dating sites, it’s near impossible these days to have a blind date any more.
I was chatting to a female friend of mine the other day, who’d been setup on a date with a guy one of our mutual friends knows. She was telling me that the mutual friend had wanted it to be a surprise, as she thought they’d be a good match, but my friend just couldn’t help but search him out on her friends list on Facebook. Boom, surprise ruined. It left me wondering if it’s actually ruining potential matches before they even meet. Yes, you might look at this guy on-line and think maybe he’s not for you. But perhaps if you’d gone on that date, you would’ve got on like a house on fire and there’d be sparks flying all over the place?
I did a little research on-line after this, and found that people seem to say the more they find out about someone they are more likely to reject them. The fact is, that if they’d taken the time to get to know you and learnt your virtues and quirks with your personality they may have grown to love them, perhaps even found them endearing. The issue is, when you throw all that at someone as a first impression it’s likely to send them away screaming at 100 miles per hour!
It all comes down to disillusionment; and the fact that on a date you have several hours to perhaps explain how that funny story happened or what caused that rather embarrassing photo. But when someone can see all this upfront they can easily get the out-of-context view and take things the wrong way.
So next time you have the opportunity to meet someone without knowing anything about them, I think you should jump at the chance. If your friend is recommending the two of you get together after-all, they probably know more about you both than you think!
Again, technology is to blame here for the ease of access to information on people. Thanks to social media, it’s almost impossible to disappear completely anymore. Especially so if you share mutual friends, a college or University or perhaps have album after album of photos together.
More and more people are using Facebook and other social networking sites to stalk both ex-partners and potential new crushes. It may be a great way to see how they’re doing, find out some of their interests you can use later to chat them up or perhaps you just want to see what they look like at their best (and worst!). The problem is, and specficially when it comes to stalking ex-girlfriends or ex-boyfriends, is that it prevents us from getting over them and moving on in our lives.
Unfortunately, too much information can cause anxiety. Spot them in a photo with a new guy? Bet that winds you up, right? It can really hamper a break up if you keep an eye on what they’re up to. So, next time you need to get over someone, block them from appearing in your newsfeed, un-friend them, or go tee-total in the digital world. You’ll thank me later.
Another way in which the modern world is causing problems for couples is the ease and convenience in which porn can be accessed these days. Unfortunately, it tends to be men who watch more porn and with increasing amounts of hardcore and alternative material, women are often feeling pressured to adhere to a male-centric sexual world they just don’t enjoy.
Many of you know that real sex is nothing like porn sex, but with it becoming more and more commonplace and less of a taboo topic between couples, the desire to see your partner perform like your favourite star is just putting unnecessary pressure on couples.
That’s if their partners are even after them at all any more. In fact, lots of women these days are complaining they just aren’t as adored as much by their partners anymore. They worry about their looks in comparison to these idealistic, photoshopped women of the internet world. We know that women already are struggling with their image in society – why must their partners be piling on even more pressure?
Sorry if this article sounds a little sexually biased, but please, do comment if you have views on this topic as it is something I hold dear to my heart.
For millennia, it has been known that certain foods have an aphrodisiac affect on most humans. And although these effects are not long-term, they are very effective in improving any relationship or sexual experience. Over the years, there have been a number of scientific studies on the effectiveness of aphrodisiacs. These aphrodisiacs come in many different shapes and sizes. For the most part, many of them are actually popular desserts. There are also regular meals that have some effect as well as numerous fruits and vegetables that have been known for their aphrodisiac influences.
Different kinds of foods are capable of changing a person’s disposition. Some foods can make somebody upset, while others can make them irritable. Certain foods can make somebody happy while others can arouse sexual desires in a person. This all comes down to the chemical reaction which occurs in our brains after we eat certain types of foods. These foods release different types of chemicals in the body that affects us all differently. Certain foods are capable of triggering the body to release endorphins into the bloodstream. These endorphins are responsible for transmitting electrical impulses through our nervous system. They are also directly responsible for our sex drive and the feeling of arousal.
Not only do these aphrodisiac desserts and foods help to improve our sexual experience, but they also have a positive effect on our overall health. When endorphins are released into the body, our cholesterol is reduced substantially. These endorphins also increase our metabolism which causes us to burn through more calories; even when sitting still. There are many, many positive benefits to consuming aphrodisiacs on a regular basis. Any type of food which gives us a sensual indulgence when consumed is considered an aphrodisiac. For example, honey is a sweet and delicious condiment, which when consumed, tantalizes taste buds in a way that sends shivers down our spine. It is also the main ingredient in a popular dessert known as baklava.
Baklava itself is considered an excellent aphrodisiac dessert. It is very simple to prepare, and when made properly it can send anyone into sensual bliss. Not only does it taste great, but within milliseconds of being consumed endorphins are released through the body arousing desires that were never thought possible. Even chocolate brownies are considered to be aphrodisiacs. Both chocolate as well as nuts are popular aphrodisiac ingredients. When you combine multiple ingredients that are considered to be aphrodisiacs into one easy-to-swallow dessert, you are able to improve the experience even more.
Many fresh berries including blueberries, raspberries as well as strawberries are also aphrodisiacs. These can be combined in numerous different ways with other ingredients such as with cream to make an excellent dessert that will send anyone into a sensual bliss. So when you want to truly arouse the person that you love, start by giving him something great to eat. From the very first moment that take place the aphrodisiac desserts in their mouth, the endorphins are released and they become completely hooked on you.
About The Author
SovietLover is a freelance writer based in United States who has researched several dating sites for women since 2007 and participated in the development of several dating events to share experiences and knowledge. He is a keen reader and article writer at Sovietmate Marriage Agency (www.sovietmate.net an online CIS dating site). When he has the time, he enjoys riding bicycle and swimming. He can speak and write English and Spanish languages.
So who’d have thought technology actually ruined relationships.
Well, it does. I imagine most of you probably think I’m going on the lines of your partner taking too many selfies, spending their life Tweeting or perhaps they’re too stuck it the world of Instagram. No, I’m on about internet infidelity.
The internet has made it far easier for people to meet, connect, hook-up, whatever. That’s great if you’re single, but if you’re in a relationship, the urge to cheat on your partner is higher than ever. The virtual world offers the convenience and anonymity that can prove too tempting for many to resist, even if they have a partner who is willing to have sex with them right there in the other room. There’s no physical contact, so what’s the problem? Is talking or flirting with other people on-line when you’re already in a relationship cheating?
77% of people would tend to agree, that any type of on-line flirting or cyber-sex is in fact cheating. Despite the many reasons a cheater could use to rationalise their activities, an overwhelming majority of people agree that cheating is cheating, regardless of the medium. It’s a new and puzzling grey area that has become such a big problem, it’s actually been the reason behind almost a third of divorce cases in the last few years.