The third type of person not to date at Uni:
Unlike schools, relationships between staff and students at Universities are pretty common and normally all above board. Often, a lecturer will only need declare their involvement with a student with their Head of Department, to ensure there is no foul play when it comes to exams.
Let’s face it though, most University relationships don’t last. So, that power over you and wisdom you found so attractive right at the start is now looming over you and out of control. Do you really want to be finishing the rest of the year having to sit and listen to your ex boy or girlfriend for several hours a week? Didn’t think so…
The second type of person not to date at Uni:
A Sabbatical Officer
Sabbs are students who’ve taken a year off either during or after their cource to take on various positions in Students’ Unions. Often these will be positions voted in by a general vote of the student population. Sabbs are often responsible for student wellbeing, activities, sports or representation.
It might seem great dating someone vaguely important, but it’s not a good idea.
The problem is, a sabbatical officer will be everywhere. You will not be able to avoid them if it all goes wrong. There’s probably massive posters of them up on the wall, emails from them each week, and of course, everyone knows who they are and will probably keep bringing the two of you up for a long time to come. It’s going to be pretty hard to get over someone when they’re so much around you.
So, in this series of three people not to date when you’re at Uni, we’re going to start with #1 (obviously).
It sounds like a brilliant idea, I mean it’s super convenient right? Well, yes, it is good when you are together. You will get closer to someone much quicker and likely feel a lot more comfortable together when you’re living together. But the big issue here is if it all goes wrong. Not only is it impossible to avoid each-other, things can get pretty awkward if your ex-partner starts bringing someone else over.
In halls, it may not be so bad, but do you really want to be sharing a bathroom or kitchen with your ex’s new love interest? It’s just not worth it. Perhaps wait until the summer when you may be moving apart before starting anything off?