It’s nearing the end of your first date. To kiss or not to kiss?
My first suggestion, is to not go all out. Most first date kisses involve light pecks on the cheeks, perhaps on the lips. These only tend to happen once you feel comfortable with your date – it’s unlikely you’re going to be wanting to go all in when you’ve only just gotten to know eachother. This isn’t a nightclub, you know.
The right time is going to be the most romantically heightened part of the date. When you feel you’re close enough to your new partner, perhaps whilst doing a fun or adventurous part of the date, it would be the best time to think about this.
Alternatively, you might be taking a romantic walk in the park together, strolling along. This could also be another good time to kiss. Try to look into your partners eyes and see what they’re thinking. You’ll feel it if it’s the right time.
The situation doesn’t need to be dramatic and serious to kiss. The right moment to kiss during these sharing moments is when you feel comfortable sharing your personal perceptions and experiences with your date.
At the end of the date, you can give him a light peck on the cheeks if you had fun with him on your first date after he’s dropped you home safe and sound.
So – you’re on a date and things have got a little awkward. You’ve run out of things to say. How to you save things and avoid coming across super shy?
1. Give Her A Compliment
I used to be enormously shy myself, but one thing that always broke the ice was when the guy would pay me a compliment. That moment of acceptance momentairly jars your brain and kicks you out of the super shy feeling. Make sure it’s something lovely though, perhaps about her lifestyle or personality, rather than just looks.
2. Ask An Open Question
Stop with the yes/no questions and ask something that actually requires some thought to respond. Questions establish a basis for effective communication and effective questions open the door to understanding. The art is to know which questions to ask and when. Definitely go for ‘why’ and ‘how’ questions and she’ll feel that you are interested. Make sure you don’t stray onto any conversation topics that might be a little too risque at first however 😉
3. Listen, Listen (oh, and Listen)
When a woman starts to talk about her favourite topics, many men will lose interest or try and steer the conversation away too quickly. This is a massive mistake and women will detect this! Women love to exchange jokes and anecdotes as well, and perhaps she’s currently on her way to telling you an interesting story. Give her a chance to finish and you will be rewarded.