Online Dating

Avoiding the Catfish

If you are looking for love and marriage abroad, it is very simple to get it right, believe me! There are thousands of honest, sincere women who will be genuinely interested in YOU!

But after you are meeting a nice girl that seems to be right for you make sure the person you are talking to is FOR REAL.

Frankly, looking for a partner abroad is not any different than any other search – search for a house, a second-hand car, or whatsoever, in one simple yet important detail: there will always be people that will try to take advantage of you.

The perception that you have built about dating scams can make you be cautious and suspicious all the time! That is even worse. Chances are you will make the same mistakes as other guys and destroy what was a really good and honest relationship – just because of being paranoid about scammers.

But what if I tell you that there are some specific signs that can make you solve the enigma of sincerity in your relationship and find out that the person you were corresponding with is not who she said she is?

1. Money is a key object to know a scam. At some point she begins to ask for money, frequently asking that it be transferred through wire services. She commonly states that the money is needed to help resolve a family tragedy or arrange for a trip to the United States.

Beside this, there are other subtle signs that can make you be suspicious from the first e-mails she is sending you.

2. The most prominent is the fact that scammers do not really read your letters. They do not remember what you have written – actually, they do not relate to the content of your letters at all. They do not answer your questions.

3. Things move very fast, and she falls in love with you within 1-5 letters. Those letters she send to you could be sent to anybody: “her” letters are pure monologue that becomes more and more obsessed with “her love” to you and her desire to be together with you despite of everything that separates you.

4. She doesn’t want to provide you with her phone number pretending that she doesn’t have a phone or that she didn’t speak English. Paper can bear anything, you know that. But even phone conversation can give you more clues of what’s really going on (though men usually tend to misinterpret subtle signs excusing them by the language barrier).

5. Your name usually appears only once, or does not appear at all in the correspondence she is sending to you. She uses “darling”, “sweetheart”, “my love” and so on instead, because she is probably afraid not to mix the names of her victims or is sending the same messages to all of them only changing the names.

6. She lets you know from the very beginning that she is a student or how little she earns, including the size of her salary even though you never asked about it. But she never asks about the state of your finances – neither uses the word “financially secure” in her description of the prospective partner.

7. She writes you almost every day (keeps sending you photos even if you did not ask for) and in her letters she talks a lot about trust, honesty and sincerity. 🙂

So of course you must be aware of the fact that there are some individuals out there who may try to extract from you some amounts in cash, but remember that not all pretty girls you are meeting online are swindlers. Many men who were looking for a foreign wife, and met a wonderful girl without problems, are very surprised to find information about scams – they did not know that such a thing exists!

It is you who takes the choice and the risk. Enjoy, but do not get fooled.

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Why Online Dating Is The Place To Be…

I’m sorry ladies, but I have some bad news for you.. Mr Perfect does not exist! The sooner you realise this sad but true fact, the sooner you can get on with finding Mr Close-Enough.

Prince Charming, on the white stallion, got lost on his way over I’m afraid. Get over it, and get on with it. You ARE going to have to actively seek the man of your dreams and he won’t be hiding under your nose. You already know he’s not one of your friends or any man you’re already acquainted with. So now what? Online dating is what.

It’s true that online dating in the early days was a little “odd”. It wasn’t considered the norm. But that’s no longer true.
It has been the main tool of every singleton in every developed country in the world for the last couple of years. Over fifty million people now successfully use online dating.
I bet you know several people that are currently using or have used online dating in the last couple of months with success.

So, just remember, it’s an infinitely big pool of men (and women) who are looking to date. There are people there of all ages, heights, weights and income. Somewhere out there is the right person for you, someone who will like you and love you, and think you are the most beautiful and desireable thing they could possibly ever imagine.

Make sure to find a site that matches your needs, write yourself a great profile and picture, and find the person of your dreams!

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Successful Online Dating #5 – Always Upload A Photo

I can’t believe I left this one to last, but it’s quite possibly the most important thing to have on your profile.

5. Always Upload A Photo

Even if you do not have a very flattering one to hand, you should always post a pic with your profile. Different people look for different things and remember, 95% of people on dating sites only search for other members who have bothered to provide a picture of themselves.

You want to see what other potential partners look like so it stands to reason that other people will want to know what you look like too.

If your photo isn’t recent or isn’t a great likeness of you, you can always say so in your profile. Try and upload several photos of yourself if you can, in different scenarios. Men with two to three pictures fare a lot better than ones with only one photo.

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Successful Online Dating #4 – Check Your Messages Often

4. Check Your Messages Often

There are two reasons why you should do this as often as possible. The most obvious one is to keep up to speed with who has joined since you last logged-on; that special someone might have signed-up since you last visited the site so do not miss out.

However, what most people do not realise is that when you log-in to a dating site, your profile moves up the listings on the internal search engine which means that you are more likely to be spotted and subsequently contacted by other people. The more often you interact with the site the more often you’re likely to appear on the front page of results – lots of sites also have a “who’s online” feature that you might appear in.

Do not be a stranger to the site you’ve joined and I recommend that you visit the site at least once a day during the lifetime of your membership.

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Successful Online Dating #3 – Write Great Emails

And today’s tip number three!

3. Write Great Emails

OK, you’ve joined a dating site, you’ve searched for other members who fall within your specified categories, and you’ve been presented with a page of matching profiles.

You’re eager to fire off a few emails…but what on earth do you say in them?

Re-read my tips from earlier in the week about creating a great profile and apply the same rules to the first email that you send to another member. If it looks like you can’t be bothered to say much or that you’re sending the same one line message to several people, then they probably won’t bother to reply. Personalise each method. Tell that person a little about who you are and why you think you might both be compatible – respond directly to what you’ve read in that person’s profile – sound interested and interesting and you’ll get an email by return – sound boring and downbeat and you’ll just be ignored.

Of course, not all dating platforms (Tinder, I’m looking at you!) allow for this kind of interaction at first, but at some point you’ll have to get chatting!

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