How Important Is Attitude?

When it comes to seducing a woman, attitude plays a very big role in how successful, or unsuccessful you are. In fact, studies have shown that someone who gives off the right attitude online is going to score far better with the women who message back. Being positive and upbeat shows in nearly everything you do, as does being negative and glum. Women are much more likely to choose the positive, upbeat guys, and let’s face it – who wants a moody first date?

A positive attitude reflects confidence and self-respect. Confidence and self-respect are vital. Positivity also directly affects how other people feel when they’re around you. To give an example, have you ever had a friend or co-worker who was always depressed or pessimistic? If you have, did you notice that after a while his or her mood started making you feel down or uncomfortable or irritable? Did they start to wind you up just by being around? Chances are it’s happened to all of us. So remember, if for no other reason than to not be a dark cloud hanging over everyone’s head, try your best to be positive and have a good attitude. This is key to getting people past that oh so important first date.

For guys, when you’re trying to make your best impression on a woman, being negative will not work. You have to feel good yourself before you can make anyone else feel good. You have to radiate the same kinds of feelings you want to receive. If you’re not giving off those positive vibes Women pick up on it and most likely steer clear of you. Game over.

At the end of the day, women like to find a man who’s stable. Part of what women judge stability on is your work. No, this doesn’t mean you need to be a rocket scientist. It simply means that if you’re changing jobs every couple of months, or getting fired for poor performance or laziness, which is directly affected by your attitude, then we’re going to think twice before they go out with you. Women are looking for a partner; and a partnership is a 50/50 relationship.

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5 Tips for Getting the Dates you’re after Online

So you’re tired of not getting any dates? The club and bar scene has all but dried up and isn’t the best place to meet women any more. People have the tendency to lie and drink too much in clubs, so that’s out the question. Make no mistake about it, right now online dating is where the dating world is, and it’s where you need to be too.

Meeting dates online have loads of benefits:

  • It is easy, even if you are shy
  • Instead of being judged by your looks, you will judged by your profile and personality (in theory!)
  • If you meet someone who is annoying, you can just log off or block them
  • You can check hundreds profiles in a half hour, all possibilities
  • It is a lot easier to get to know people when you can’t see them

Do not worry, the online dating scene isn’t just for losers and middle aged men any more.

So is it possible to meet an attractive woman online? Absolutely! But you have to follow the right steps or you will just end up wasting your time and or money.

Here are some tips to land yourself a date tonight:

  1. Choose the right website – To pay for a site or not? There are a lot of great free websites out there. The fact of the matter is, most pay websites will usually yield better results.
  2. Write an effective profile – No matter how you look, how old you are, or how much hair you have, THE most important part of online dating is your personal ad. If you can make a profile that is attractive you will have no problems meeting new people in no time. An effective profile will multiply the response you get. Keep it light and funny. Do not be negative or mention how desperate you are.
  3. Give compliments sparingly – One thing that will turn people off quicker than anything else is if they feel that you are not being honest with them. If you give too many compliments, too quickly people will think that you have an ulterior motive. Do not make that mistake!
  4. Do not rush to meet up – The great part about meeting people o-nline is that you have the opportunity to get to know them before you meet them. The reality is that this is a dangerous world and while it isn’t likely that you will meeting a psycho, it is always a possibility. Take your time and get to know you new love interest before you met them, it will also make you look less desperate.
  5. Do not Send too many messages – If you send too many messages too soon you will come off as needy. No one wants someone who is too needy. When chatting online, you have the opportunity to take your time and think out your messages.
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The Secrets to Successful Online Dating

People have taken to online dating, and by taken I mean really taken. Online dating is now huge, worldwide, because it works… or, at least, it can work. Women are, in general, terrified of meeting a man that she has been chatting with online. All they have heard about are the scary things that can happen! I must say, they have a right to be careful to the extreme -that is not only wise but vital. So what’s a nice guy to do? You aren’t a pervert, a sexual predator, or a weirdo. You are just a nice guy looking for “the” girl for you.

You must be patient. Do not press her for personal information like her real name or where she lives. Keep your conversations light and fun until she feels comfortable talking with you online. Do not try to rush her into meeting face-to-face. She will think you are desperate or a pervert. Patience is a virtue in the online dating world.

A picture really is worth a thousand words. Post many pictures of yourself doing your everyday activities and make them full body shots, not just head shots. If you were dating a girl in the real world she wouldn’t just see your head.

Be absolutely honest about your physical appearance and job. A good relationship has never been, and will never be, built on lies and deceit. Eventually she will find out the truth anyway and there you are back at square one.

Once the discussion has been opened about meeting face-to-face for the first time, suggest that you meet in a very public place, during daylight hours and that she bring a friend with her. After all, you have nothing to hide. You have told her the truth about yourself and she has already seen a lot of pictures of you. The only thing left is to make her feel safe meeting you and then you can really start to build the relationship.

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