Relationship Killer #10 – Being Too Comfortable
After you’ve been together for a while, you will tend to grow very comfortable with each other. Unfortunately, this can lead to laziness and even boredom. Work hard to ensure you don’t become under-appreciated when in each other’s company. If you feel the relationship is heading this way, try spicing things up. Generally a lot of couples benefit from change, such as a change of pace or a change of scenery, so definitely make sure you grab a holiday when you can!
Relationship Killer #9 – Smothering
It’s difficult to find a good balance when it comes to dating. Too much time together and you will begin to smother each other. Too much time apart and it will be difficult to keep the romance alive. It’s important to not become too dependent on your partner or you’ll make them feel very trapped which just perpetuates bad thoughts.
If you feel you’re in the position where the only important thing in your life is your partner, you may need to back off a little and find some alternative hobbies, interests or friends to keep you occupied away from that one person. It’s also a good idea to avoid dating with colleagues for this exact reason or things could get awkward quickly if the relationship goes sour!
Relationship Killer #8 – Addiction
Drink, gambling, sex, smoking, drugs. Whatever it may be, addiction puts an unhealthy strain on a relationship. Constantly lying to your partner, letting them down and being rejected by the person they care about can be something unbearable for the other person. It’s unhealthy for a relationship, as well as your personal health! Seek professional advice when it comes to handling addictions and work together to improve your ability to handle whatever it may be that you can’t do without. You’ll feel better as a person for dealing with it, I promise!
Relationship Killer #7 – Aggressive Behaviour
No-one should EVER have to deal with an aggressive partner, and if any one ever lays a hand on you in a moment of anger, seek professional advice or contact the Police as soon as possible.
However, even small amounts of anger, such as a raised voice or a snappy response can lead to stress in a relationship. If you react badly to a situation you will cause your partner to become very stressed about dealing with these situations as they will feel they have to walk on egg-shells when a similar problem occurs again in the future. When dealing with a difficult situation (be that with each other or perhaps some other event like a bad experience when travelling), remain calm with each other or nothing will progress and no benefit will be gained. You’re a team after-all, and by working together you shall be able to overcome any situation much easier.
Relationship Killer #6 – Arguments
A little disagreement here and there can be healthy. You both need to fight for what you believe in, and what you want to do. Neither partner should trample over the other when it comes to decision making.
Arguments are normal. What’s not normal is when the daily routine is full of them. If you find you’re arguing about every little decision in the day, it could be a sign something more important is wrong in the relationship. Constructive arguments are fine, but stressful disagreements are not a good thing and if so it’s a good sign the relationship just isn’t panning out. Try and relax more with the little things in life and let the odd decision slide without causing trouble.