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Dating Online Is Not A Contest

It’s time for some people reading this to grow up. The word of online dating is not a competition between competing males vying for the attention of a female. You need to be in the mindset of finding rather than winning. It’s not school anymore and your attitude is the most important asset you have. Remember as well; your ideal of the “perfect man” is unlikely to be the same as your ideal woman’s view.

So what is it that women want, I hear you ask? It’s an age old question and if I could answer it then we could all go home now and be happy ever after. Being a female myself, what I can tell you is a few things women definitely DON’T want!

1. Women want confidence, not arrogance. There is a big difference here. You need to like yourself for whom you are, be confident in being yourself and not being self deprecating. You absolutely must not come across as if you’re a gift to them. They don’t like the idea you think they’re God’s gift from heaven. That’s one heck of an expectation to live up to and women just don’t need that kind of stress.

2. Women want communication. Strong and silent really doesn’t get you too far in the long run. It’s not appealing or original and they probably think the same about you if that’s the attitude you take. Women want you to be interesting and fun to be around.

3. Women are not a prize. So many men I’ve been on dates with to discuss on-line dating seem to think that women are their trophy. They want to be the ONE woman you want to be with; not the only one that responded.

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Beating Shyness With The Opposite Sex

A lot of us are timid or why when conversing with the opposite sex. That gets us no where. We are terrified of conversing with any individual of opposite sex. Something happens that stops us. Why do we get terrified? We are not frightened of talking with our own gender. It’s as though there is a switch in the brain that is switched off and says no when it comes to talking to potential dates.

What can possibly be done to solve this? Well, the good news is, it’s all in your head. Our brain lets us know that we are not ready. We may be rejected. We may be laughed at. Our brain cautions us to protect ourselves from this and says no – you are not to approach anybody from the opposite sex. It’s a fight or flight type response. For this situation, we must depend on fight. However with this flee response most people experience, we will never get an attractive partner. We will forever stay single and just insightfully watch different couples going around. So what would it be advisable for us to do?

The first step in such cases is to assess ourself and contrast ourselves and our friends. Is it true that we are as keen as they seem to be? Is it true that we are as keen as they may actually be? It is safe to say that we are as sure as they may be? It is safe to say that we are as adequate as they seem to be? Are we as good as them? You are an attractive individual. On the off chance that your companions are not shy, why are you? Assemble the quality and methodology persons of opposite sex with trust. Don’t stress over rejection. There might be numerous explanations behind that, some can be so petty (us women are like that!). Approach keenly with confidence and you will unquestionably get a great date out of it!

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Improve Your Success With Women – Confidence

Are you having trouble with attracting and seducing any hot women you meet?

Well if so, then pay close attention to what I’m about to tell you…

If you’re interested in increasing your overall success with women, then you should learn ONE important thing. It is being able to approach women WITHOUT any fear of rejection! I know this sounds simplistic, but many guys have major problems with this one aspect of their dating lives. They’re afraid to approach women because they worry about what could go wrong. Typically a lot of men get nervous thinking about what a woman will say and how she might reject him.

All you have to do is learn how to overcome your fear of rejection. By confidently walking up to a woman with NO fear of rejection, you’ll instantly become an attractive guy who has a seductive personality.

Here’s an example to illustrate this point…  One of my good friends is able to attract and seduce many beautiful women because he has almost no fear of rejection. While he knows he’s might be rejected, he’s able to eliminate all negative thought patterns. Instead he simply focuses on his approach and initiating conversations with women.  As you can see, guys with no fear of rejection are able to increase their overall success with women. If you learn to cultivate this personality, you’ll find that you’ll become better with women as well. All you have to do is learn how to act confidently on all interactions with women. When you’re talking to women, simply concentrate on the conversation and work at eradicating all negative thoughts. Just relax and enjoy the conversation.

If you’re intimidated by women, you need to work on building your confidence and become comfortable with approaching hot women. If you see an attractive woman, then you should immediately approach her.  When you get into the practice of approaching all hot women you see, you’re nervousness and fears will quickly fade away. Once you get into a pattern of approaching women and initiating conversations with women, you’ll experience a dramatic increase in your success. Even if you’re only able to pick up a woman once in awhile, you’ll at least have more experience with your approach techniques. Also, you’ll be closer towards eliminating your fear of rejection. Attracting and seducing women is possible. But if you let your fears and nervousness get in the way, you’ll have little chance of success.  All you have to do is practice your approach techniques and become more confident, then you’ll master the art of attraction. You can find out more about this by reading my previous articles on seduction and attraction, so check them out!

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7 Rules For A Successful First Date

Dating is a necessary part of live, but fortunately everyone else is in the same boat. It’s a selection process. Some guys are good at it, some are not. Wherever you fit, here are some common rules everyone should follow when it comes to dating.

1. Look Your Best
You don’t have to be in a tux, but make sure you dress smartly and appropriately for where you’re headed. Make sure your personal hygiene is up to scratch. Your hair should be done and beard should be shaved or trimmed, whichever you prefer. Take breath mints.

2. Pay Attention
Be interested, stop talking, start listening. You want to get to know each other, correct, but use that time effectively. Give her your undivided attention. Phones away. Everyone loves attention, so show her interest. Allow her to talk, and then continue the conversation about something relevant. This is one of the greatest compliments you can give a woman as showing you are engaging with what she is saying is vital. Try and keep an eye for detail.

3. Drop A Compliment
Not an over the top one, and not one every two minutes. But she spent a lot of time getting ready for you, and wants you to notice that. Make sure she realises you appreciate the effort she’s gone to!

4. Have Fun
A date is all about relaxing with each other and opening yourselves up to another person. It’s far easier to do that in the correct atmosphere. Make sure you are both able to enjoy the activity 100%.

5. Don’t Be Rude/Drunk
It’s ok to drink on a date, in fact it helps most people open up and without a little tipple or two most people wouldn’t have the success they do. But don’t get drunk. Especially if you tend to get aggressive/loud/rude when you’ve had too many.

6. Be Confident
I’ve said it again and again, but it’s the number one thing you must do when on a date. It’s all about attitude, not looks.

7. Be On Time
It’s never a good idea to be late on a first date, especially keeping the girl waiting in the cold. She’s made an effort to be there when you agreed so it’s rude to not show up. She should be the most important thing in your itinerary and so if you are late you better have a good reason!

Most importantly, be yourself. It’s never wise to lie as you’ll have to remember that lie for the rest of your life (hopefully!).

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Friday’s Top Attraction Myth #6 – You Know Everything

Top Attraction Myth #6: You Know Everything

Many guys feel that by their early twenties they know everything they need to know about dating and love. But I bet if you look back 10 years to when you were in your mid-teens, you realise just how much you’ve learnt in that time. I bet you also feel that if you could go back in time with the knowledge you have now, things would be so much better. Hindsight is a wonderful thing, but I also have news for you… in 10 years time you will look back to now and consider yourself to be completely stupid when it comes to love. Yes, there is still more to come and more mistakes you’re going to make in the journey to true love.

Never be afraid to learn new tricks and methods of getting the woman of your desires. Try things, experiment and find out where things work best for you. Perhaps you have a style that works well.. so mold it into something better. Don’t stagnate, and don’t believe that right now you are the best you’ll ever be as it’s simply not true. Go out tonight and get that woman of your dreams!

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