The third type of person not to date at Uni:
Unlike schools, relationships between staff and students at Universities are pretty common and normally all above board. Often, a lecturer will only need declare their involvement with a student with their Head of Department, to ensure there is no foul play when it comes to exams.
Let’s face it though, most University relationships don’t last. So, that power over you and wisdom you found so attractive right at the start is now looming over you and out of control. Do you really want to be finishing the rest of the year having to sit and listen to your ex boy or girlfriend for several hours a week? Didn’t think so…
So, in this series of three people not to date when you’re at Uni, we’re going to start with #1 (obviously).
It sounds like a brilliant idea, I mean it’s super convenient right? Well, yes, it is good when you are together. You will get closer to someone much quicker and likely feel a lot more comfortable together when you’re living together. But the big issue here is if it all goes wrong. Not only is it impossible to avoid each-other, things can get pretty awkward if your ex-partner starts bringing someone else over.
In halls, it may not be so bad, but do you really want to be sharing a bathroom or kitchen with your ex’s new love interest? It’s just not worth it. Perhaps wait until the summer when you may be moving apart before starting anything off?
Relationship Killer #10 – Being Too Comfortable
After you’ve been together for a while, you will tend to grow very comfortable with each other. Unfortunately, this can lead to laziness and even boredom. Work hard to ensure you don’t become under-appreciated when in each other’s company. If you feel the relationship is heading this way, try spicing things up. Generally a lot of couples benefit from change, such as a change of pace or a change of scenery, so definitely make sure you grab a holiday when you can!
Relationship Killer #9 – Smothering
It’s difficult to find a good balance when it comes to dating. Too much time together and you will begin to smother each other. Too much time apart and it will be difficult to keep the romance alive. It’s important to not become too dependent on your partner or you’ll make them feel very trapped which just perpetuates bad thoughts.
If you feel you’re in the position where the only important thing in your life is your partner, you may need to back off a little and find some alternative hobbies, interests or friends to keep you occupied away from that one person. It’s also a good idea to avoid dating with colleagues for this exact reason or things could get awkward quickly if the relationship goes sour!
Relationship Killer #8 – Addiction
Drink, gambling, sex, smoking, drugs. Whatever it may be, addiction puts an unhealthy strain on a relationship. Constantly lying to your partner, letting them down and being rejected by the person they care about can be something unbearable for the other person. It’s unhealthy for a relationship, as well as your personal health! Seek professional advice when it comes to handling addictions and work together to improve your ability to handle whatever it may be that you can’t do without. You’ll feel better as a person for dealing with it, I promise!