Top Attraction Myth #7: Women Say What They Mean
Uh oh. This is a biggie, but some guys just don’t get it. I’m afraid gentlemen, that women are complicated. I’m not saying they are hard to understand (and I’ll get onto this tomorrow), but we aren’t always the most obvious of creatures.
Notice that what they say and what they do often don’t correlate? It’s the same for what they say and what they mean. So just because a girl says X, she probably means Y. She’s not trying to trick you, it’s just in our nature!
Women have this fairy-tale in their heads and unfortunately mainly due to Hollywood will try and drive their entire lives in this direction. But reality doesn’t work that way, and life drags people in different directions.
Next time, try and understand exactly what message she’s trying to get across. Don’t be afraid to ask for clarification. Many men have been in your situation and ended up in hot water, so don’t take everything she says at face value.
Top Attraction Myth #6: You Know Everything
Many guys feel that by their early twenties they know everything they need to know about dating and love. But I bet if you look back 10 years to when you were in your mid-teens, you realise just how much you’ve learnt in that time. I bet you also feel that if you could go back in time with the knowledge you have now, things would be so much better. Hindsight is a wonderful thing, but I also have news for you… in 10 years time you will look back to now and consider yourself to be completely stupid when it comes to love. Yes, there is still more to come and more mistakes you’re going to make in the journey to true love.
Never be afraid to learn new tricks and methods of getting the woman of your desires. Try things, experiment and find out where things work best for you. Perhaps you have a style that works well.. so mold it into something better. Don’t stagnate, and don’t believe that right now you are the best you’ll ever be as it’s simply not true. Go out tonight and get that woman of your dreams!
Top Attraction Myth #5: Telling Her How I Feel Is The Answer
Nope. The more you reveal about yourself and your feelings, the less attractive you will be. Of course, girls like mystery and all that jazz, but it’s not that.
Guys think that if they reveal loving and inner secrets about how they feel their partner will suddenly find this inner love and there’ll be a happily ever after. Unfortunately, when a guy professes his love for a girl, most go into some sort of special panic mode. It’s that concern about attachment and reliance. Girls don’t like to feel too close until they’re entirely comfortable.
What’s important is how she feels. She needs the right amount of interest, curiosity, love (or like), attraction and also has to be in the right place with herself. If you put all your cards on the table, she might click that you’re not both in the same place right now and instantly push you away.
Don’t reveal all, and let her settle first, before muttering those three magic words, and you’ll probably find things work out better in the end…
So my last round of daily tips seemed to go down well; here’s a new series of top attraction myths. Hopefully my advice is useful and not offensive! If you like, please comment and share 🙂 A xx
Top Attraction Myth #1: Guys Must Ask The Women Out
You will not believe how many times I hear that guys complain it’s them that has to do all the work, that they’re the ones always making the first move. If you like a girl, then go for it. But don’t just ask her out as you may find a lot of girls don’t see things with quite the same angle you do.
You see, a lot of girls are incapable for various reasons to be straight to the point with things. Some girls when they are asked out on dates just hear “Hey, would you like a free dinner and some drinks?”, whilst others hear “I want to marry you, do you think we’d have 2 or 3 children?”. Some girls like to jump to conclusions. And unfortunately for guys, either of those extremes means you end up not getting what you want, which is probably just a nice evening to get to know each other and find out if you’re interested in one another romantically.
So, try and be more unique. Don’t just go for the dinner/drinks thing as you’ll quite often end up investing too much in a woman before even finding out if she’s interested in you or not. You should never go on a date with a girl who you don’t believe is at least somewhat interested in you romantically; or basically you’re just giving her a free ride.