I can’t believe I left this one to last, but it’s quite possibly the most important thing to have on your profile.
5. Always Upload A Photo
Even if you do not have a very flattering one to hand, you should always post a pic with your profile. Different people look for different things and remember, 95% of people on dating sites only search for other members who have bothered to provide a picture of themselves.
You want to see what other potential partners look like so it stands to reason that other people will want to know what you look like too.
If your photo isn’t recent or isn’t a great likeness of you, you can always say so in your profile. Try and upload several photos of yourself if you can, in different scenarios. Men with two to three pictures fare a lot better than ones with only one photo.
And today’s tip number three!
3. Write Great Emails
OK, you’ve joined a dating site, you’ve searched for other members who fall within your specified categories, and you’ve been presented with a page of matching profiles.
You’re eager to fire off a few emails…but what on earth do you say in them?
Re-read my tips from earlier in the week about creating a great profile and apply the same rules to the first email that you send to another member. If it looks like you can’t be bothered to say much or that you’re sending the same one line message to several people, then they probably won’t bother to reply. Personalise each method. Tell that person a little about who you are and why you think you might both be compatible – respond directly to what you’ve read in that person’s profile – sound interested and interesting and you’ll get an email by return – sound boring and downbeat and you’ll just be ignored.
Of course, not all dating platforms (Tinder, I’m looking at you!) allow for this kind of interaction at first, but at some point you’ll have to get chatting!
Following on from yesterday’s tip about online dating, here is my tip for success number two!
2. Be Proactive
Do not just join a site and expect other people to contact you. Make sure you regularly search the database for people with whom you might be compatible and when you find someone you like the look or sound of, write to them immediately and tell them why you think you might be a good fit. Don’t just hang around and wait for Mr Right to appear on your doorstep!
Did you know that two in five single people in the UK now use some kind of online dating service? That’s 40% of all singles! Unfortunately, the percentage of these people who actually find a real partner as a direct result of online dating is very low – probably less than 10%.
Why’s this? Well, it is true that some sites are better than others; they have more traffic, they are better to navigate; they just ‘work’ whilst others just do not. Some are all about the ‘local’ matches or quick-fire dating such as Tinder. But what really matters is how you use a site when you actually sign-up to one. Take my word for it, unless you take the five simple steps that I’m about to outline, you may as well do something more productive with your time than join a singles site. What I’m about to say may sound obvious and rather simplistic, but you’d be surprised at how many people do not bother doing the ‘obvious’. So here goes…
1. Create A Great Profile
This is the most important aspect of your dating site experience. Don’t leave it at ‘Nice guy seeks great girl for trips to the park’ – how boring does that sound? Take the time to say something about yourself, your lifestyle, your interests and the type of person you’re hoping to meet here. And remember to sound happy, upbeat, fun and confident; if you’re miserable about your recent breakup, then keep it to yourself! This isn’t the time for modesty; if you think you’re pretty darn attractive, then be sure to say so. Humour is a real ice-breaker – if you can make someone laugh, they’ll be more interested in contacting you.
Come back tomorrow for tip #2!