Most people think that by describing the specifics of what they are will mean women will want them more. In fact, most women want pretty much the same thing. They all want someone who is funny, smart, stable, attractive and trustworthy. Everyone wants perfection.
As women, listing a load of character traits in your profile you are looking for will just make men feel inadequate. No-one can be everything and the whole point of dating is finding out which things are important to you, and where you can compromise.
So, make it easier on yourselves and rather than writing a long list of requirements, pick two or three things to focus on. If you find that humour and intelligence is more important to you than looks, then don’t even mention the word “attractive” on your profile as something you’re looking for. Avoid using negatives too, so if you don’t want someone who loves to travel then don’t put “I don’t want people who like travelling”, put “I love someone who likes to stay at home”. Or whatever.
Use clever language to qualify men (or women) without making it obvious. For instance, the sentence “I don’t care what your job is…” implies you aren’t interested in what they do for a living but you are hinting you want them to be employed!
Just remember, a carefully written profile will weed out the people you aren’t interested in, but leave you open enough to not put off anyone who may be unsure if they fit, even if they really are what you want.
Online Dating Profile Tip #6: Usernames
Picking a username is tricky. It’s good to try and describe yourself and most people will also drop in a first name, nickname or year of birth if they’re struggling for something unique. Be careful not to reveal too much in a username and it’s also a good idea to use something different to what you have on social media sites if you want to keep your love life a little separate.
Whatever you do, don’t use something sexual. It’s just not cool and isn’t going to get you anywhere fast.
Online Dating Profile Tip #5: Third Person
If you’re not good at writing about yourself, then get a friend involved. They probably know you from the outside in a different way to how you think of yourself. If you’re stuck for what to say, then let them loose on your profile. There are even sites out there now dedicated to introducing friends to eachother. You must have at least one friend who says they can’t understand why you’re still single; that’s the kind of person you want to be selling your personality online. Ask friends for advice on what your best features are and incorporate that into your profile.
Online Dating Profile Tip #4: Expectations
Listing what you’re looking for from a dating website is a good thing. If you’re looking to be serious, then make sure your profile shows that off. There’s no point in attracting someone not on the same level as you. If you’re wanting NSA fun then put that too, but don’t expect there not to be at least a few people put off by that. Oh well, they weren’t going to be what you wanted anyway.
Don’t waste people’s time – make sure you’re being upfront in what you say.
Online Dating Profile Tip #3: It’s OK to Dream
Girls especially like to plan their futures. Weddings, children, houses, the lot. It’s OK to talk about your dreams and ambitions on your profile. In fact it shows you actually want to do something with your life and you haven’t just settled for what you have now. You never know, you may find someone willing to share that dream with you and make it a reality!