The third type of person not to date at Uni:
Unlike schools, relationships between staff and students at Universities are pretty common and normally all above board. Often, a lecturer will only need declare their involvement with a student with their Head of Department, to ensure there is no foul play when it comes to exams.
Let’s face it though, most University relationships don’t last. So, that power over you and wisdom you found so attractive right at the start is now looming over you and out of control. Do you really want to be finishing the rest of the year having to sit and listen to your ex boy or girlfriend for several hours a week? Didn’t think so…
The second type of person not to date at Uni:
A Sabbatical Officer
Sabbs are students who’ve taken a year off either during or after their cource to take on various positions in Students’ Unions. Often these will be positions voted in by a general vote of the student population. Sabbs are often responsible for student wellbeing, activities, sports or representation.
It might seem great dating someone vaguely important, but it’s not a good idea.
The problem is, a sabbatical officer will be everywhere. You will not be able to avoid them if it all goes wrong. There’s probably massive posters of them up on the wall, emails from them each week, and of course, everyone knows who they are and will probably keep bringing the two of you up for a long time to come. It’s going to be pretty hard to get over someone when they’re so much around you.
Another way in which the modern world is causing problems for couples is the ease and convenience in which porn can be accessed these days. Unfortunately, it tends to be men who watch more porn and with increasing amounts of hardcore and alternative material, women are often feeling pressured to adhere to a male-centric sexual world they just don’t enjoy.
Many of you know that real sex is nothing like porn sex, but with it becoming more and more commonplace and less of a taboo topic between couples, the desire to see your partner perform like your favourite star is just putting unnecessary pressure on couples.
That’s if their partners are even after them at all any more. In fact, lots of women these days are complaining they just aren’t as adored as much by their partners anymore. They worry about their looks in comparison to these idealistic, photoshopped women of the internet world. We know that women already are struggling with their image in society – why must their partners be piling on even more pressure?
Sorry if this article sounds a little sexually biased, but please, do comment if you have views on this topic as it is something I hold dear to my heart.
Relationship Killer #10 – Being Too Comfortable
After you’ve been together for a while, you will tend to grow very comfortable with each other. Unfortunately, this can lead to laziness and even boredom. Work hard to ensure you don’t become under-appreciated when in each other’s company. If you feel the relationship is heading this way, try spicing things up. Generally a lot of couples benefit from change, such as a change of pace or a change of scenery, so definitely make sure you grab a holiday when you can!
Relationship Killer #9 – Smothering
It’s difficult to find a good balance when it comes to dating. Too much time together and you will begin to smother each other. Too much time apart and it will be difficult to keep the romance alive. It’s important to not become too dependent on your partner or you’ll make them feel very trapped which just perpetuates bad thoughts.
If you feel you’re in the position where the only important thing in your life is your partner, you may need to back off a little and find some alternative hobbies, interests or friends to keep you occupied away from that one person. It’s also a good idea to avoid dating with colleagues for this exact reason or things could get awkward quickly if the relationship goes sour!