Who Not To Date At Uni – Your Flatmates

So, in this series of three people not to date when you’re at Uni, we’re going to start with #1 (obviously).

Your Flatmates

It sounds like a brilliant idea, I mean it’s super convenient right? Well, yes, it is good when you are together. You will get closer to someone much quicker and likely feel a lot more comfortable together when you’re living together. But the big issue here is if it all goes wrong. Not only is it impossible to avoid each-other, things can get pretty awkward if your ex-partner starts bringing someone else over.

In halls, it may not be so bad, but do you really want to be sharing a bathroom or kitchen with your ex’s new love interest? It’s just not worth it. Perhaps wait until the summer when you may be moving apart before starting anything off?

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How to Get A Girl To Have Sex and Get Into Bed With You

Seduction.

I could leave it there. Without this, even the most attractive of men won’t be able to take a woman home. An average looking man who can seduce a woman will win every single time over an extremely attractive man with no seduction skills. It is imperative you know how to seduce, and once you do, you’ll have the luxury of being able to ask “My place or yours?”.

To seal the deal, you’ll need to attract the woman first. Just by being good looking or talking to a woman won’t make her yearn for you. You’ve got to show her you’re really interested in her and don’t try to beat around the bush. This part of seduction will take time. Never try and trick a woman into sleeping with you; generally women are pretty smart and can see through this. They’ve probably heard every cheesy pickup line in the world, and you’ll be sure they’re not going to work.

Be honest and straightforward without being rude and push. Lying out all of your good qualities in full view will help lure her in. Here are the top things to think about when it comes to seduction:

  • Physical attraction is very important. Dress well, shave and look sharp
  • Charm is incredibly useful in showing her you’re interested, and gives you a great attitude towards her
  • Intellectual conversation, interesting topics, politics, current affairs, etc are all better than talking about the weather. Think about your conversations
  • Appear Harmless and don’t come across as a stalker. You need her to want to let her guard down, not try and hold you at arms length
  • Emotional Seduction is important. Give her that warm fuzzy feeling and be spontaneous and exciting in how you talk to her
  • Chivalry isn’t Dead. Treat her as special; but don’t put her on a pedestal – there’s a fine line between making her feel wanted and being needy

So, by now you should’ve worked out the basics of seduction. Once you’ve drawn her in, make sure you think about the following:

  • Put Her First, not all of the time, but don’t let her think the only thing you’re interested in is satisfying your own needs
  • Make Her Feel Beautiful, it’s a bit of point-scoring with this one, but it’s a standard one and easy to do
  • Deliver Orgasms. Guys, learn the signs of her faking it. Never let her leave feeling unsatisfied or she won’t stick around. Explore her body
  • Provide Her With Pleasure, it’s a give and take thing. And sex is far more amazing when you both learn how to push each others buttons
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What if you’re disappointed when you meet your Online Date in person?

For some people, online dating is just for amusement. Others are basing their future on it. It’s workable for most and gratifying when you receive attention. Most people’s experience are generally positive but there is that one big problem that comes up a cropper more often than not: You meet up in real life, and are disappointed in what you find. What do you do in this situation?

Sometimes people’s expectations are too easily raised – other times people have lied on their profiles. It happens. And if you’ve arrange to meet before you find out; then you’ll be in for disappointment.

The two biggest things people lie about are actually their job, and their weight. Men tend to lie about height too, but an inch or two doesn’t often make a difference 😉

So. You’ve spent hours exchanging messages, chatting and spent hours on the phone. Now it comes to meet. You built up so much chemistry on the phone and every time you talked, that in particular the guy has built up the possibility of a true relationship with the girl before you’ve even met. Inevitably the guy will be the first to suggest moving things offline.

The day rolls around and you’ve agreed to meet for lunch. This is it. But oh no, everything has crumbled. Why? The girl appears to be somewhat different to what the guy was expecting, and that conversation that so easily flowed online has become stiff, awkward and strained. You get to the end of the date, and the girl politely says she had a wonderful time and the guy nods and agrees. But is this really how it should be?

Of course, all this happens the other way around too – we all know how many guys we’ve met online who turned out to have that ‘extra few pounds’ which they failed to mention online…

This kind of situation is not uncommon in the world of online dating. There are many cases wherein two people just don’t click when they meet each other in person.

Both of you will go away and try and analyse the situation. You find it hard to understand why the person you learnt to like online is entirely different in person. You try to assess what went wrong. Is it their point of view that has changed? Were you deceived by the other person? Or was it just wrong from the very start?

The problem with most people who indulge into online dating is that they fail to keep in mind that when they communicate to their dates online, they are communicating, not with a person but with a series of texts, with no person involved. This is because any answers can always be fabricated or the other person can always deceive his or her date. So, when this occurs, the date’s inevitably turn out different than you ever imagined.

You need to learn how to act in these situations. Unfortunately, it’s time for that age old most hated thing – rejection.

  1. In order to break up things easily, it’s better for a person not to mention anything that will focus attention on the issue of not getting the expectations that one had started to build before they even met in person.
    It’s wrong to emphasize on the physical qualities of the person that is why the other person does not want to communicate with him or her any more.
  2. It’s best for the concerned person to explain to the other that it’s more important to find the other’s right mate to ensure a happy relationship than soldier on with something that doesn’t feel right. At least try and make effort to explain how the chemistry is not working.
  3. Don’t use excuses. They will only worsen the matter – rejection should be instigated in a way that the other person will not be hurt. But that does not mean using excuses. A lame defence only hurts more.
  4. Be consistent with your decision. If you felt it was right at the time, it was right. Don’t go away and regret your decision only to try and win them back. Don’t come back rushing into the other person’s life because you’ve realised that he or she is wrong in their decision after all. Once you’ve walked away, stay away.
  5. Let the other individual express his or her feelings and ask questions. Don’t shy away from answering them honestly. Sometimes people want to get the feeling they’ve understood why things went wrong, even if that doesn’t make much sense to you. Learn to empathise with the other individual so you can see what it’d be like in their shoes. Be sensitive to how they feel.

Rejection is always hard, but sometimes its for the best. Online dating has it’s ups and downs, and you will succeed with it eventually. But it may mean facing rejection along the way. It’s a journey at the end of the day.

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52 Dates You Can Do For Free

Students! Christmas is coming and money is getting tight. You’ve probably already spent your student loan on alcohol and dress up costumes. Don’t worry, here are 52 ideas of how to spend date night without spending a penny! That’s once a week – bargain 🙂

  1. Take a drive to look at the Christmas decorations
  2. Play cards – perhaps strip poker
  3. Watch a movie together
  4. Go outside and have a snowball fight
  5. Get some finger paints and create your own body art with each other as your canvass
  6. Go sleigh riding
  7. Go ice skating
  8. Work out or exercise together
  9. Stage your own improvisation show
  10. Sing to each other
  11. Review or create a photo album or scrapbook of your memories together
  12. Play a board game – perhaps chess, Scrabble or Twister (or naked Twister)
  13. Go to a book store, get coffee and read for hours
  14. Work on a DIY project together
  15. Plan and complete a gardening project together
  16. Do the spring cleaning together – room by room. When done, reward yourself by making love in the room you’ve cleaned
  17. Put on old clothes and mud wrestle after some drenching rain
  18. Give each other a massage
  19. Go play Frisbee with local kids in the park
  20. Go to a car dealer and test drive the car of your dreams
  21. Find a local art installation and take crazy pictures
  22. Dance together
  23. Take a shower together and wash each other – everywhere
  24. Take a free adult education class together
  25. Go to the shops and have a contest to see which one of you can get the most free samples
  26. Go rollerblading or bike riding
  27. Build a campfire and roast marshmallows
  28. Go swimming or skinny dipping
  29. Give each other a manicure or pedicure
  30. Go somewhere crowded to people watch
  31. Go to a free outdoor event, perhaps a concert
  32. Lie on a blanket outside and watch the clouds or stars
  33. Go on a picnic
  34. Watch a fireworks display
  35. Be creative and engage in sexual role plays. Be anyone you’d like to be for the night who is also exciting for your partner
  36. Sit by the water somewhere
  37. Do a prolonged strip tease for each other
  38. Have a water balloon fight
  39. Sit outside and read poetry to each other
  40. Go for a drive together
  41. Go window shopping
  42. Incorporate food into your love making – chocolate syrup, whipped cream, fondue, strawberries – anything you and your partner enjoy
  43. Call or write to someone you haven’t had contact with in a while
  44. Cook something together
  45. Spend an evening just talking with each other. Talk about the things you have done, plans you have for the future, important people in your lives or current events
  46. Take a bubble bath together
  47. Go to a free film or museum
  48. Take a drive and find the potential in old houses and their properties
  49. Create an imaginary story together – either orally or in written form
  50. Take turns being each other’s genie in a bottle by fulfilling your partner’s every wish and fantasy
  51. Play in the fallen leaves
  52. Create an exciting scavenger hunt that ends in your bed

The idea is not to see how kinky you can get. The idea is to keep your relationship alive by making time together a priority. It is important that you find things to do as a couple that you both enjoy. If you have different interests then you can enter this with the spirit of taking turns and each agree to participate in the activity chosen by the one whose turn it is that week.

As long as you’ve made a habit of making your relationship a priority and allocating time for eachother each week, then you stand a good chance of staying together for the long haul.

Please don’t let insidious boredom enter into your relationship through the back door. This is what frequently happens when we are busy placing other things ahead of our time for each other. You know what I mean. There will always be a competing interest for the time you’ve set aside for each other.

If you have any ideas then leave them in the Comments section below – other than that – get going!

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