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Thursday’s Top Attraction Myth #5 – Telling Her How I Feel Is The Answer

Top Attraction Myth #5: Telling Her How I Feel Is The Answer

Nope. The more you reveal about yourself and your feelings, the less attractive you will be. Of course, girls like mystery and all that jazz, but it’s not that.

Guys think that if they reveal loving and inner secrets about how they feel their partner will suddenly find this inner love and there’ll be a happily ever after. Unfortunately, when a guy professes his love for a girl, most go into some sort of special panic mode. It’s that concern about attachment and reliance. Girls don’t like to feel too close until they’re entirely comfortable.

What’s important is how she feels. She needs the right amount of interest, curiosity, love (or like), attraction and also has to be in the right place with herself. If you put all your cards on the table, she might click that you’re not both in the same place right now and instantly push you away.

Don’t reveal all, and let her settle first, before muttering those three magic words, and you’ll probably find things work out better in the end…

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How to be a Romantic Man and why it’s a Good Thing!

Being labelled as a romantic man is often considered undesirable by the most manliest of men. But why? Just because you’re great at pampering your woman doesn’t mean that you’re any less of a man. Spend the day playing football or fixing up your car for all I care; as long as at the end of the day you have time for the love, care and attention of your significant other than what’s the problem in that? And let’s face it lads, if you treat your girl right and perhaps cook her an impromptu romantic dinner then the benefits of what’s for dessert far outweigh any negative connotations a “romantic man” might get from his mates.

My last boyfriend couldn’t see this, and it’s where our problems started.

Being a romantic man isn’t hard, it’s the little things that count. A glance, a holding of the hand, eye contact. Yeah, gifts and flowers are great to get, but it’s not about that. It’s the things money doesn’t buy (sorry for the cliché there!). It’s your style and imagination that create the most romantic of moments with that woman you love.

If you know her (and you should) then you know what she likes and dislikes. You know the little things that make her day. Thing of what she likes and build a romantic event around it. If she likes walks on the beach, why not take her for a picnic on the shore (granted, it is winter now – perhaps I should’ve started writing this in May!). Of course, you’ve gotta make sure it’s about her. Don’t take her shopping to the local DIY store just because ‘she likes shopping’. It’s all about making it her time.

So, take shopping for an example. You go clothes shopping with her because it makes her feel amazing. It makes her feel beautiful, and she enjoys it. It makes her happy and that should make you happy. She’ll ask your opinion, model for you, ask her if she looks sexy. It’s a romantic thing to see how your woman looks and carries herself as she moves in something that makes her feel amazing. And let’s face it guys, who hasn’t tried to coax their other half into a lingerie shop and been happily surprised when she lets you pick something out for her to wear that night at home 😉

Being romantic is a win-win, and believe me if you make her feel loved and cared for then she will return the feeling in oodles. It really makes a relationship click, and keeps things fresh.

So men, don’t be afraid, show your romantic side, and your relationships will grow better, for sure! Women? Well you already know your man likes to be romanced so I don’t think I need to say any more!

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Spicing Up Your Sex Life

Recently the UK’s population has surpassed 60 million people and about 600,000 of these have come to work in the UK from the new EU nations between 2004 and 2006. Since the early 1990’s the whole concept of love and sex has changed. Psychology now depicts love and sex as a cognitive and social phenomenon comprised of three different components: intimacy, commitment and passion.

Having sex is obviously a natural and desired physical manifestation of attraction. But it sounds like even though you enjoy the sex, most want something more from a dating relationship – including honest and meaningful communication, holidays together, date nights, time together with friends, and basically everything that gives you that warm fuzzy feeling when you’re in love.

“Sex is more than an act of enjoyment, it is the aptitude to be able to feel so close to a person, so connected, so comfortable that it is almost breathtaking to the point you feel you can’t take it. And at this moment you’re a part of them.”

So then, how can we use this information to spice up our sex lives? Studies show that doing any of the following before heading to the bedroom leads to an overall higher satisfaction than in situations where would-be-lovers hop straight into bed:

  • Enjoy a romantic dinner together
  • Give one another a long, sensual massage
  • Explore new sexual positions, push your boundaries
  • Try watching an erotic video together
  • Go on a romantic holiday or weekend away with one another, free of distractions
  • Find common ground to share, like a hobby or activity you can enjoy together
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