Top Attraction Myth #8: Women Are Complicated
Another big myth today. Men think that women are complex. And to some lengths I can see why. We often defy logic and for a lot of men this poses a problem. The thing is, we often take emotion into account more often than men, and this changes things.
Put yourself in a woman’s shoes (not literally) and think about things the way she might. You don’t have to be a cat to understand why a cat might like to chase a bird or claw at that lovely new leather sofa. You’d normally just buy your cat a play-toy or a scratching post and let them be happy.
Lots of guys assume that women work the same as they do, and when they defy this, they get angry or annoyed that things didn’t go how they were expecting.
So, by trying to actually understand what they want and how they think, you’ll be putting yourself in a more powerful position. I’m not saying you have to jump to keep your woman happy all the time, but if you know how to, you can lead a much more happy life!
Top Attraction Myth #7: Women Say What They Mean
Uh oh. This is a biggie, but some guys just don’t get it. I’m afraid gentlemen, that women are complicated. I’m not saying they are hard to understand (and I’ll get onto this tomorrow), but we aren’t always the most obvious of creatures.
Notice that what they say and what they do often don’t correlate? It’s the same for what they say and what they mean. So just because a girl says X, she probably means Y. She’s not trying to trick you, it’s just in our nature!
Women have this fairy-tale in their heads and unfortunately mainly due to Hollywood will try and drive their entire lives in this direction. But reality doesn’t work that way, and life drags people in different directions.
Next time, try and understand exactly what message she’s trying to get across. Don’t be afraid to ask for clarification. Many men have been in your situation and ended up in hot water, so don’t take everything she says at face value.
Top Attraction Myth #5: Telling Her How I Feel Is The Answer
Nope. The more you reveal about yourself and your feelings, the less attractive you will be. Of course, girls like mystery and all that jazz, but it’s not that.
Guys think that if they reveal loving and inner secrets about how they feel their partner will suddenly find this inner love and there’ll be a happily ever after. Unfortunately, when a guy professes his love for a girl, most go into some sort of special panic mode. It’s that concern about attachment and reliance. Girls don’t like to feel too close until they’re entirely comfortable.
What’s important is how she feels. She needs the right amount of interest, curiosity, love (or like), attraction and also has to be in the right place with herself. If you put all your cards on the table, she might click that you’re not both in the same place right now and instantly push you away.
Don’t reveal all, and let her settle first, before muttering those three magic words, and you’ll probably find things work out better in the end…
Top Attraction Myth #4: I’m A Nice Guy
Many guys have come to learn this over the course of their teens and probably twenties. So many men think that being the nice guy will lead them where they want with women. Yes, you need to be decent, but I’m afraid if you think that coming across as the soppy “nice guy” you’ll be in her pants then you are far from mistaken.
Women want strength in a man and not just physically, but emotionally. You need to be able to provide for her in the future and keep her secure. You must be confident in your actions and not a doormat. Many men realise as they get older that a lot of their failed relationships were down to them trying to perpetually be this super nice person and in the end they just were walked over. If that’s you, then sort it out – pronto.
Top Attraction Myth #3: Money Talks
A lot of men believe that not having money, being the best looking, or being famous means they’re immediately on a back foot when it comes to women. And granted, yes, a man with more money may be able to go out more often and meet more women, but it doesn’t affect the quality of who they’ll meet nor how they act with that person.
If you’re looking for long term relationships, then you have to remember that it really is what’s inside that counts. It’s important to have a level of physical attraction of course, but although first off a woman might be attracted to a jerk, it’s more likely they’re attracted to confidence and excitement. And any man can offer a girl these things.
Fame is attractive to women because it seems powerful, jerks offer women a challenge and wealth offers security. But it’s possible to have all these things just be taking on the right attitude when you’re on a night out. Don’t be over clingly, don’t look weak and if a girl’s just after money then she’s not right for you anyway.