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Why Technology Is Ruining Your Relationship: The Explosion of Porn

Another way in which the modern world is causing problems for couples is the ease and convenience in which porn can be accessed these days. Unfortunately, it tends to be men who watch more porn and with increasing amounts of hardcore and alternative material, women are often feeling pressured to adhere to a male-centric sexual world they just don’t enjoy.

Many of you know that real sex is nothing like porn sex, but with it becoming more and more commonplace and less of a taboo topic between couples, the desire to see your partner perform like your favourite star is just putting unnecessary pressure on couples.

That’s if their partners are even after them at all any more. In fact, lots of women these days are complaining they just aren’t as adored as much by their partners anymore. They worry about their looks in comparison to these idealistic, photoshopped women of the internet world. We know that women already are struggling with their image in society – why must their partners be piling on even more pressure?

Sorry if this article sounds a little sexually biased, but please, do comment if you have views on this topic as it is something I hold dear to my heart.

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Can You Trust Online Dating Websites?

As millions of people over the world make their way to on-line dating sites in order to find love, countless teams of scientists are closely watching their every single move.  Scientists, like everyone else, are truly interested in whether one can actually find love on the Internet. The difference is that in the world of science, a more systematic approach is utilized in order to determine whether you can trust on-line dating sites are not.  Information regarding the success stories showcased on many of the world’s most popular on-line dating sites has been gathered and closely evaluated by various scholars around the world. They use this data to study aspects of on-line dating such as trust, attraction as well as deception.  They also take into account the importance of race, politics as well as religion.

One of the more interesting aspects about on-line dating profiles is that most daters will openly admit that they are obese but will often try to escape any questions associated with their political views. And although it is racial, it has been discovered that many Caucasian on-line daters adamantly refuse to date outside their race; an issue that is not as prevalent in other races.  Although the concept of dating and falling in love is nothing new, very little research has been done in the field. As a result, there is very little data regarding the process of dating and selecting a mate. Up until the advent of the on-line dating industry, the only information that was available to scientists was the information compiled through centuries of census data.

With the help of a grant from the National Science Foundation, Professor Gerald A. Mendelsohn from the University of California, Berkeley embarked on an extensive study of on-line dating habits. His research consisted of millions of dating profiles from some of the most active on-line dating sites in the world. These sites average more than 600 million visits every single month.  In the United States alone, 21 percent of all heterosexual couples and as much a 61 percent of same-sex couples initially met on-line. This information is derived not only from anonymous profile content that researchers received from the various on-line dating sites, but is also through surveys and face-to-face interviews with on-line daters.

Researchers have found that when it comes to on-line dating, that opposites do not attract one another. They have also discovered that honesty may not be the best policy. The question of whether you can trust online dating sites comes down to personal choice.  According to the research, 81 percent of all on-line daters lie on information such as their height, weight as well as their age. Because of the fact that on-line daters expect to eventually meet another person through the dating site, their propensity to lie is limited to small physiological descriptions.

When it comes to weight, most women choose to describe themselves as being roughly a half pound thinner than they are in real life. Men on the other hand only knock off an average of two pounds from their actual body weight.  And although women are generally very honest about their height when fulfilling their on-line dating profile, men tend to round up their height to the nearest half of an inch.  In most profiles, it was determined that online daters were very honest about their age. Obviously this comes down to the fact that people can claim some bit of ignorance regarding their height and weight, but is much harder to claim that they were unaware of any age difference. However, the profile photos uploaded by women are generally more than one and a half years old. Men on the other hand choose to upload profile photos that are less than six months old.

For the most part, because there is an intention to eventually meet somebody through an on-line dating site, most on-line dating profiles are fairly accurate. The only time that a member lies in their profile is to provide information about themselves with the intent of attracting a particular audience.  So can you trust on-line dating sites? Sure, why not.

About The Author
I’m the Co-Founder and Webmaster of several dating sites including Chicks For Dating website (ChicksForDating.com). I started in the dating area in 2005, writing articles and press releases as freelancer and helping in the envisioning and development of international dating websites (most of them from Latin-America  and Europe), believing that technology can help soul-mates to find real love and long-term relationships. I enjoy my free time reading technology articles, walking and hearing music dreaming in new dating projects.

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Saturday’s Top Attraction Myth #7 – Women Say What They Mean

Top Attraction Myth #7: Women Say What They Mean

Uh oh. This is a biggie, but some guys just don’t get it. I’m afraid gentlemen, that women are complicated. I’m not saying they are hard to understand (and I’ll get onto this tomorrow), but we aren’t always the most obvious of creatures.

Notice that what they say and what they do often don’t correlate? It’s the same for what they say and what they mean. So just because a girl says X, she probably means Y. She’s not trying to trick you, it’s just in our nature!

Women have this fairy-tale in their heads and unfortunately mainly due to Hollywood will try and drive their entire lives in this direction. But reality doesn’t work that way, and life drags people in different directions.

Next time, try and understand exactly what message she’s trying to get across. Don’t be afraid to ask for clarification. Many men have been in your situation and ended up in hot water, so don’t take everything she says at face value.

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Make a Woman FEEL not DECIDE

It doesn’t matter how many flowers you buy for a woman, it won’t matter unless she FEELS attracted to you. Women don’t care about how it works, they care about how it feels. They’re used to the idea of a leading, strong man who swept them off their feet, and this is partly down to all the romantic novels and movies they’ve consumed since a young age.

This is the quality that attracts women to the “bad boy” types. It’s not the fact they’re a bad boy that women like them; it’s because they have this primal instinct. It’s the uncontrollable dominance that weaker “nice guys” don’t have that really pulls in their emotions The nice guy approach can work, but often only when a woman wants attention.

I’m sorry to say it guys, but women can’t help this. It’s mother nature and Oestrogen is a drug that induced emotive response not reasoning. Women want to feel things, not decide them. The sooner you realise this fact the sooner you’ll be able to dominate in the dating world.

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What attracts Women to Men, and why Being the Nice Guy isn’t always best…

Men are often clueless in what it is that attracts a woman. In fact, some people say that women are so hard to comprehend that even if a man could master how to understand every portion of their body language, they’d still not be able to understand them.

Over 70% of Men can’t work out the most basic of women’s body language

Because men are having such a hard time figuring out what attracts women sexually and romantically, men often realise that they’ve misunderstood or completely got the wrong end of the stick, often too late. This leads to many men thinking they know the secret of what women are attracted to, when in fact they couldn’t be further from it.

So, here’s some quick tips. Women, if you agree/disagree don’t forget to share in the comments section below!

Here’s a list of the top tips to help understand where men are going wrong:

  1. Women don’t like “nice guys”

    Well, they do, but that doesn’t mean it’s what attracts them. Some guys think that in order to attract a woman they must be good looking, small good, dress well and project that all so important “nice guy” image. WRONG. In reality, women are after the bad-boys. They always have been and they always are. Nice guys are boring. It’s as simple as that – and women find this uninteresting.

    Women enjoy character. They value someone who can keep them hooked. Most women value personality over looks, correct, but that doesn’t mean you need to roll over and play nice. Men who have loveable personalities with a sense of humour and above all confidence tend to do the best.

  2. Women are attracted to less superficial features than men are
    Let me explain. Women tend to see past the surface quicker than men do. Things that are innate, and not constrained by physical boundaries and limitations. Women are far more concerned with things that they literally cannot see. Stuff like personality traits, behaviour and attitudes.

    This is why most women would rather date a man with a strong personality, even if he isn’t the best looking or most well off.

  3. Women like men who can handle themselves
    Egoistic men tend to be more focussed on what others see in them than who they actually are.
    However, women are not so much worried about what makes this man, but on what this man makes of himself. For example, women prefer men who take care of what they’ve got than are perhaps the most naturally good looking.

    A man might be rich, but if he spends his money unwisely then he won’t necessarily bag the woman of his dreams. Women prefer men who do the right thing, who make the most of what they have… This is the key to getting women to pay attention.

    Material things such as looks, physical attributes, wealth, education, power, etc are all important, but it doesn’t mean every man needs this to be successful with women. Men who have less, but do more with it, will always win.

So with all this in mind, remember that the concept of attraction is a personal one and will vary from woman to woman. One woman may like the fact you have a car, one may not care. But to be successful with the majority of women you need to focus on proving that what you do with what you’ve got is more important to you than having the best material things to start from.

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