With the abundance of on-line dating sites, filled with 1000’s of eligible members in every area, it’s hard to stand out from the crowd.
Daters always ask me what my top tip is for them, about how they can improve their profile, how they can get more responses…
It’s Your Photo
Unfortunately, we live in a very material and somewhat judgemental world. You absolutely must have a great photo on your profile. Now I’m not saying that you have to look like a supermodel, but a profile with a clean and smart, well taken photograph will stand out. There are various reasons why people don’t want to post good photos on dating profiles; usually this is due to embarrassment if they’re recognised, or perhaps they feel self concious about how they look. But listen, by not having a photo or by having an “arty” photo where your face is not clearly visible you look like someone who has something to hide. Your photo doesn’t have to look like a glossy magazine shoot, but it gives people the general idea if you are what they are looking for, that you aren’t hiding something (e.g. you’re married!), and that you’re a real person.
People who reject you based on your profile picture aren’t worth getting to know anyway, so don’t worry about that side of things. And worried you may be recognised by friends or family? Well firstly, on-line dating is not a taboo any more, and secondly, what are they doing looking on the sites themselves anyway??
Studies show that profiles with pictures get far more response than those which don’t. A good photo is an attention grabber, and it could be the thing that spurs them on to get in touch.
So when you message me asking what I think about your profile and what would I suggest, don’t bother if you don’t have a good photo up already – that will be your Achilles heel at this point.
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